Proper Support System

One of the most critical things I learned as an adult was how the proper support system is needed.  Sometimes you encounter things in your life that your not quite sure how to deal with, or you just want an opinion of someone else credible.  It's important to have this support system because not all of the time will you feel you can make the best judgement call.  The support system usually ranges from a real good friend, a spouse, or close relatives.  Either way make sure that your support system is best for you.  A lot of time we tend to have people that we believe should be in our support system that really shouldn't be.  Ladies you shouldn't take advice from another woman about what you should do with your man, if her herself is having man problems or has been known to have countless man problems.  Also fellas we should not be taking advice from other men about how we should raise our sons if you know that he himself is not around to support his own children.  When we tend to take advice from people that has a hard time holding it together in their own life, we set ourselves up to be no better off than those people.  We need to make sure that the information we receive from our support system is credible and have dealt with those type of situations before.  Sometimes a lot of us tend to look at people that have bad situations and try to do the opposite of what they do to try to balance it out.  However that doesn't always work, every situation is unique to each person because of the things that lead to that situation.  So we need to make sure if we are a part of someones support system we give them solid advice that they could use, not just a "This is what I would do" advice.  I think it's important that we teach our children that it's OK to get advice from people, but make sure that you thoroughly think their advice through before applying it.  The world is filled with a bunch of younger people that are in terrible situations in their life due to listening to someone elses opinion or advice on doing something.  We have to make sure that our children know that it's OK to come to us as their support system, especially since we have their best interest at heart.  Point is make sure that the people you have in your support system is worth giving you advice, because the wrong advice could change your life.