Disagreements

"Honest Disagreement is often a good sign of progress"
-Mahatma Gandhi

Every couple has disagreements from time to time. The major subjects that couples disagree on vary from serious subjects to silly subjects. Most of it is not worth fighting about and some is worth an argument. What do people argue about? Almost anything for example such as money or kids. Sometimes Sex. Perhaps past ex girlfriends or boyfriends. In the heat of the moment we often say stuff that we normally wouldn't say. Those words later on echo in the minds of our significant other and can have a real negative effect.
We need to realize to relax and talk in a normal tone of voice before speaking to someone when we are upset about something. Words are something that can't be erased very well once they are spoken to someone. It is difficult for many people not to yell or swear during an argument with someone. We need to exercise self control. I know self control can be very difficult to maintain when we are upset. Self control isn't something that is learned overnight or in a few days. We often get mad or upset over things that aren't even really worth it.
I have found that it is much more beneficial to be mild tempered, and positive with my spouse during times when we are having a disagreement. Using a good tone and positive words even when I feel I am right in the situation oftentimes can stop an argument from even beginning. The important thing is to try not to let disagreements, which can be positive, turn into arguments that most likely are negative and nothing gets solved. Work on maintaining self control in the workplace, with our children, and with our relationship partner and disagreements will be kept in their place and not escalate into arguments.