Is the grass really greener on the other side?

Have you ever pondered this question? Have you ever found yourself enjoying the company of someone that is not your significant other and wondered how things would be if you were with that person instead of the one you are with? We are only human and sometimes your mind wonders even when you don't want it too. I recently heard from a married man who is thinking about divorcing his wife because he feels they aren't compatible. He says that his once loving and fulfilling relationship is no longer working. We are just not right for each other, we are very different and do not have much in common except for their lovely children he goes on to explain. As we continue to talk I notice his reasons for his failing marriage, he suggests that their different religious beliefs are the root of the problem. He says that his lack of religion and her strong fundamentalist beliefs are too much for the couple to overcome. That all seems to make sense...As I tried to provide some counsel on the issues he tells me that he has met someone that he has really taking a liking too. He and this woman have bonded emotionally, and the intimacy, and acceptance he feels with her is too good to ignore. He says that he has new found joy in being able to live without the constant demands of family.
Of course for many people a life without cares, responsibility, and duties, are a lot easier than dealing with the demands of marriage. Oftentimes when you are able to be with someone and engage in an intimate relationship without "real life" interfering life looks a lot more exciting, romantic, and enjoyable. But I'm here to tell you that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, sometimes there isn't even any grass at all. A healthy relationship takes work, effort, time, and most of all love. There is simply no substitute for it. The idea that a marriage can be healthy and happy without the emotional, mental, and physical investment is way out of touch with reality. When you are going through tough times, and your relationship is suffering someone else always seems to look more attractive. Do not become a victim of this false advertising. Instead of looking for other grass, try watering your own lawn and help your grass become the greenest on the block.