Respect

We as men always assume that just because we are over 18 we should be treated and respected as a man.  Well I'm here to tell all of our young readers that it just isn't so.     Respect is earned not given out to be used as you see fit.  To get respect a lot of the time you have to give respect, you can't feel like you’re entitled to it.  Make sure that when you ask someone to respect you that you’re giving it back in return.  I hear a lot of men saying that they left there woman because she didn't respect him as a man.  I find myself asking the question, why would she say that?  It all comes back to the way he went about his life, How could she respect someone that doesn't respect her?  How could she respect a man that couldn't maintain a job?  How could she respect a man that didn't treat his parents with the Respect they deserve?  How does he not want to be a father and take care of his kids?  But most of all, How could she respects someone that didn't respect themselves?  That's the biggest obstacle when trying to earn respect, and that's respecting yourself.  As men it's important we respect ourselves before we can expect anyone else to do so.  Put focus on making you better, and remember that criticism isn't always bad it helps us become better people.  If she told you that she couldn’t respect you then that is probably more criticism then anything.  The best thing you can do is prove then wrong, step your game up and be that person that everyone knows you can be.  Don’t waste your time worrying about the dude at the gas station mugging you, or the dude at the club that tried to talk to your woman at the bar.  Respect is given to the man that doesn’t let the petty things bother him and continue to carry himself as a respectful person.