Healthy Realtionships

The purpose of relationship
is not to have another who might complete you,
but to have another with whom
you might share your completeness.

~ Neale Donald Walsch ~

People ask me all the time how do you and your significant other make it work.  I respond by telling them it's a lot of work.  In order to make any relationship work you have to be willing to work at it.  This takes a lot of communication, listening, and most importantly compromising.  We should never think as people that we can just have someone love and understand us without needing to work at it.  We all know sometimes the opposite sex does some questionable things, but it's the work we put into that which makes it a lot more manageable.  There are things we do as men that women just can't stand, but they are willing to put up with it for the love of you.  Women it's important that you realize although most men don't do exactly what you want them to, however recognize if you have an exceptional man in your life.  There are a lot of men out there that are abusive verbally and physically, be sure to let your man know that he is appreciated.  Also Men we need to keep in mind that most of our women go up and beyond the call of duty to make sure that we are kept happy.  If you have a woman that does extra to make sure that you are satisfied make sure you explain to her that you are grateful for all that she does.  Women would like to hear that they are appreciated as opposed to becoming your new mother, letting them know that your appreciative is a great way to keep communication open. 

In a relationship it is important that both parties let their significant others know how much they mean to us by speaking it not by just trying to show it.  Although we seem to believe that doing things for each other means the same thing, but it really doesn't.  Hearing somebody tell you how much you mean to them helps you grasp what's expected of you in a relationship.  I'm a firm believer of it isn't what you say it's how you say it.  When communicating with your partner about important issues we should be sure that we are speaking in a tone that does not come off as angry or agitated.  The best way to start an argument is speaking to your spouse with aggravation in your voice.  Most people automatically get offended once they hear that tone in your voice. So keep in mind that we all want to be treated with respect and know that our significant others most of the time want the best for us, so let's be sure to give them the best that we have.