One thing I always find ironic is how Women say that there are no good Men out there, but they continue to invest in Men that continually disappoint them knowing that the criteria they are looking for has continued to disappoint them. At what point does a woman or man start to look for different criteria in partners they are interviewing to be the next one. With that being said there are a lot of Women out there that have sons and continue to look for the wrong type of Men. Shouldn't one of those criteria's be finding a Man that your son could look up to as a good role model? Typically strong male role models make it easier to build Manhood; mothers usually cannot do it alone. A single mother truly believing that she can raise a boy to be a man without any mishaps is as misguided as a man thinking that he can teach his daughters the subtleties of womanhood. It's important that Mothers realize that they are the first teachers and the most influential person in the life of nearly any child not just boys. As parents we need to understand that we are shaping the leadership of future households. It is up to us to raise Men that will eventually become bread winners and Fathers that will have to eventually teach another boy to be a man. We are shaping little girls to understand how to grow up and carry herself as a strong woman and how not to fall for any Man that says something she likes. To be strong and influential to other little girls that need positive female role models.
Dr. Boyce Watkins a Professor of Finance at Syracuse University is quotes saying "If we build weak men then we will have weak families." What Dr. Watkins is saying makes a lot of sense. How can we expect to have great men in the world when the average man was never raised to be a Leader, or Accountable, or to be humble. He goes on to mention how a lot of the mothers raising these Men are holding their sons back from growing into Men by supporting and encouraging their bad habits. Things such as allowing your son to make excuses for why they are once again fired from their job. How if he gets in trouble at school it is some how the teachers fault or he is being picked on solely because of the color of his skin. Also explain how allowing your son to be lazy does not promote healthy growth. Washing his clothes, not making him do any chores, let them stay in the house with no job while he plays X-Box all day and lay around in his drawls waiting on his rap career to take off. As Mothers coddling your sons does not prepare them for the real world. It does not prepare them to become leaders in society and allowing that same boy to grow up and try to raise another boy into a man could be disastrous.
As strong Mothers raising boys it's always important to remember to allow your son to be accountable for his actions. Not telling your son he is wrong for dating multiple women and being a "Playa" in sorts is should not be stood for especially if yourself understand what it is like to be that other woman. Buying your kids the most expensive gift possible without enforcing the fact that they must earn or work for it does not help either. This only allows him to believe that he could be rewarded for doing the bare minimum and it does not promote growth in the future. It does not show him that hard work pays off and you can get anything you strive for. I think one of the biggest issues that is over looked is the ability to teach your child the importance of managing their money such as Saving, Investing or just being a good provider. By providing good knowledge of these things to our children when they are kids will help them understand the value of hard work at an older age.
This is not meant to be aimed at only Mothers but any parent raising a Boy into a Man.
Let's all make it a conscious effort to promote leadership in our children so that they grow up to be outstanding people who can shape the futures of others and promote growth where they see it need be. Remember it starts with us parents.
Dr. Boyce Watkins a Professor of Finance at Syracuse University is quotes saying "If we build weak men then we will have weak families." What Dr. Watkins is saying makes a lot of sense. How can we expect to have great men in the world when the average man was never raised to be a Leader, or Accountable, or to be humble. He goes on to mention how a lot of the mothers raising these Men are holding their sons back from growing into Men by supporting and encouraging their bad habits. Things such as allowing your son to make excuses for why they are once again fired from their job. How if he gets in trouble at school it is some how the teachers fault or he is being picked on solely because of the color of his skin. Also explain how allowing your son to be lazy does not promote healthy growth. Washing his clothes, not making him do any chores, let them stay in the house with no job while he plays X-Box all day and lay around in his drawls waiting on his rap career to take off. As Mothers coddling your sons does not prepare them for the real world. It does not prepare them to become leaders in society and allowing that same boy to grow up and try to raise another boy into a man could be disastrous.
As strong Mothers raising boys it's always important to remember to allow your son to be accountable for his actions. Not telling your son he is wrong for dating multiple women and being a "Playa" in sorts is should not be stood for especially if yourself understand what it is like to be that other woman. Buying your kids the most expensive gift possible without enforcing the fact that they must earn or work for it does not help either. This only allows him to believe that he could be rewarded for doing the bare minimum and it does not promote growth in the future. It does not show him that hard work pays off and you can get anything you strive for. I think one of the biggest issues that is over looked is the ability to teach your child the importance of managing their money such as Saving, Investing or just being a good provider. By providing good knowledge of these things to our children when they are kids will help them understand the value of hard work at an older age.
This is not meant to be aimed at only Mothers but any parent raising a Boy into a Man.
Let's all make it a conscious effort to promote leadership in our children so that they grow up to be outstanding people who can shape the futures of others and promote growth where they see it need be. Remember it starts with us parents.
